Apparently laziness makes the best cakes and the best love stories. This is the recipe that my brothers and my husband have most often asked me to make for their birthdays.
You don't really have to sift all the dry ingredients - you can literally just mix them in lazily and it'll still taste just as amazing!
And you don't really have to work hard to be "good enough" for the right man when God brings him around - you can literally just be yourself, and he'll love you just the way you are! Now, having him in your life will definitely change you for the better; but that's beside the point.
It's a lot like the Divine love story! We don't really have to work hard to be "good enough" for God to take us into His family - we can literally just ask Him in faith and trust that He'll do all the work for us. Again, having Him in our lives will definitely change us for the better; but that's beside the point.
Anyway, back to my love story....
Before I met my husband Christopher, all the guys who I liked or who liked me seemed to want/need me to change something.
One of the first guys I liked believed that short-sleeved shirts were sinful, so I wore only 3/4-length-or-longer sleeves for a while just to see if I could do it.
Another guy who wanted to court me (we had two dates) wanted me to move to his home-state (where I knew no one), and we wouldn’t actually be going to church anywhere (just nursing home services). He also wanted to know which school subject I felt like I could teach the best in homeschooling his five children from a previous marriage.
Still another guy wanted help on his farm (again, in another state). He needed a place to stay, help writing his occasional sermons, and special water - he couldn't drink local water anywhere because it made him sick.
One guy told me that although I could keep wearing skirts since that's my preference, he really preferred the blue-jeans look on women.
Another guy wanted me to agree the “food” at McDonald’s was too unhealthy to ever think of even touching.
And then there was the guy who kinda liked me (and I thought I loved him, but it was really just gratitude & friendship). He shared a lot of his fitness knowledge, which really helped in my recovery when I'd sort of hit a hump. We had some great talks, and we texted regularly for a while. But when it came down to it, I just wasn't recovering enough (or recovering fast enough) to be/become "good enough for him." And eventually he let me know that we needed to stop "talking."
That one was kinda hard for me to get over, so eventually I asked advice from one of the leaders at my summer internship with Joni & Friends Arizona. She gave me the excellent advice to "wait for someone who will love you as you are."
So I took steps to let go of those wistful feelings for the guy who was "too good for me."
And just a few months later, my Knight in Shining Armor sent me a message on Christian Mingle that started the relationship that led to the marriage that has become a more wonderful love-relationship than I had ever dreamed possible!
So yeah....
I guess it's all about lazy loving & lazy baking! 💘
